Resolving Stuck Conflicts in the Relationship

Identifying the Root of the Conflict with Couples Therapy

Are you stuck in the same conflict again and again, unable to move forward? Perhaps you feel like you can’t break through to each other, there’s no understanding, and you feel misunderstood or have intentions attributed to you that you don’t recognize. Maybe you think of divorce. In this process, you’ll have the opportunity to work on your conflicts, understand what’s going wrong, and identify the core of the conflict.

Many couples experience the same conflict playing out repeatedly. Both parties often end up hurt and lonely, feeling unheard and misunderstood.

• Unspoken Longings or Needs: In a conflict, what’s being discussed is rarely what the conflict is really about. There’s often a deeper longing or unspoken need behind it, but vulnerability is shut down. Instead, they attack each other, so the conflict often ends with one attacking and blaming while the other defends, withdraws, or retaliates.
• Feeling Stuck: Most people don’t know how to get out of it; it just happens out of nowhere, and then they’re stuck again. The longer conflicts go on, the more distance grows between the parties. They feel drained and powerless, and neither of them thrives.

The therapy session in Parterapeut Frederiksberg is based on a ‘here and now’ perspective. What is happening between you right now. Often, however, it is relevant that we go back and examine any defense mechanisms or strategies, but it is the ‘here and now’ we work on in therapy. Causes from the past often become explanations of why we do what we do, but we cannot change anything or create changes in the relationship without attention to what we are doing and how we are doing it.

A good couples therapist creates clarity and always takes action so that it becomes more than just talk and theory. What can you actually do to achieve what you want, and how can you make it happen?

It is important to me that you feel you are taking something with you that you can work on so you can also feel the effect at home. Finding the best couples therapist in Copenhagen is also for many about chemistry.

In therapy, you receive honest and direct feedback on what I observe, and I intervene when I see during the session that you are doing more of what doesn’t work. That way, you can experience and understand firsthand what’s happening between you in the situation. My primary task is to support you through your process.